We had a disagreement tonight. Started out we were over at the mother in laws. There are two 2 acres lots side by side up the road from us for 20k each. I told her mom, we need to go buy these two lots and keep them one, one for her, and one for us. She wants to build a new house, and I want to build a new house.
This endeavor is going to be a long one. Probably take me 10 years to complete the project.
So my wife says well, we can have another kid by the time we start on the house. I'm like, umm, honey, we have two kids already, and for this to work, the extra expense to have another kid, just isn't going to work.
She got mad, said I was selfish, she takes care of the kids more than I ever do. And I agree. I work out of town every week, and I do help as much as I can when I am home. I work hard, and did this to provide extra for my family. I didn't appreciate that being thrown in my face, but words spoken in anger or excitement are rarely how one really feels.
I told her, would you rather provide well for 2 kids, and give them the attention and things that they want, or would you rather provide ok for 3 kids and everyone have to do without? She had no answer.
She just got madder at me, and went in the bedroom with the boy. Do I give up on this? Give up my plan of building a new house? Or suck it up and do both to keep her happy? Am I being selfish? I don't know what I am looking for here. I just have my plan...
I am sitting in the back garage now shivering and typing this post. Stupid wood stove is taking forever to heat up.
And please no one take this post the wrong way. I am not bashing on anyone with 3 or 10 kids. This is my personal choice for the amount of kids I'd like to have. I am meaning nothing negative towards anything. I know you guys aren't like that here, but just wanted to say that. I consider all you guys my friends and do not want to upset anyone.
Edited by toomanytoys84, December 26, 2014 - 10:15 PM.