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#31 twostep OFFLINE  

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Posted January 03, 2014 - 01:39 PM

...The kid's having a full time Mom is enough for me... 

 

Ditto.

 

The same thing happened to me about 5 years ago. I had a former "mentor" call me and offer me a job 3 hours from home and everything I knew (including my little crap town). Unbelievable opportunity with great pay... The wife had just had our first miscarriage and she had just found out that her company was closing up shop. We always wanted for her to stay home but we couldn't afford then but with the new position it would be no problem. We made the leap. She is home with our (now 3) kids and (God willing) will stay home till they are in high school. The distance has actually be a blessing for most of the time. It makes the visits more meaningful... not just another day. I'm not going to say that I don't miss the farm and the crap town and being able to help the ol' man out whenever he needs it but in that same crap town I would never make enough money for my wife to stay home.

 

In short: GO FOR IT!


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Posted January 03, 2014 - 04:53 PM

We are going to sit down do the math. We have a lot of figuring to do.

But with the lawyers have told us today I think we are assured going to do it. It will clear up a lot. We are going to sell our house here. I always have a home to come back to with my parents and her parents. 5 miles apart from each other. I hate to lose this house but we can start a fresh start and get little girl away from everyone.

Another is as you guys have pointed out several times the stay at home mom part.

Edited by toomanytoys84, January 03, 2014 - 05:09 PM.

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Posted January 03, 2014 - 06:56 PM

Four walls and a roof make a house, a family makes it a home. Wherever that may be.


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Posted January 03, 2014 - 09:50 PM

More pay equals more GTs!!!!!!!!

 

Seriously, great advice here. If you dont take it you will always regret not even trying it. Wife is happy about it,parents will be happy about it, you win. Go for it and dont look back. God has given you an opportunity, listen to him!


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Posted January 03, 2014 - 10:49 PM

My wife and I are thrilled that our grown kids and grand kids all live within 2 to 2.5 hours away. Many of our friends kids have had to move halfway across the country to find work. My wife has been a stay at home for all of our kids and they all claim that that is a legacy that none of their friends have. So, what are you waiting for ? looks to me like God has this one wrapped and waiting for you to open.


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Posted January 04, 2014 - 07:06 AM

Anyone on here from the fairmont area have any words of wisdom to share about the area?

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Posted January 04, 2014 - 09:09 AM

Go With your own gut.


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Posted January 10, 2014 - 06:23 PM

How did you make out? Good Luck, Rick
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Posted January 10, 2014 - 09:13 PM

I'm back down south. I accepted the promotion. I didn't have to worry about a home. They are giving me a house to live in I just pay utilities. I haven't seen it yet. My wife quit her job and we are all living in the motel suite.

I've been working 14 to 16 hours a day
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Posted January 16, 2014 - 11:57 AM

Well, the house they said they were going to give me isn't going to happen.  It wasn't in writing just a verbal offer.  So I have no recourse in that matter.

 

No big deal really.  Found a house less than 3 miles away from the shop for rent, for 700 a month.  Just going to bite it and rent a house for the next 2 years.  Keeping our house in Ohio, unless something changes then we will sell it and buy something down here.

 

Right now I am only on a 2 year contract here, then I will be shipped home.


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Posted January 16, 2014 - 12:00 PM

I know you'll be happier when you are in a home & out of that Motel.  Good neighborhood at the rental home?


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Posted January 16, 2014 - 12:09 PM

doesn't seem back, nice little town about 10 miles from the interstate

 

The motel life is getting old.  I am planning on coming home friday for the weekend.  I really want to at least.  But don't know if its in the cards....


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Posted January 16, 2014 - 04:47 PM

 Found a house less than 3 miles away from the shop for rent, for 700 a month.

 

Wow.  A house, not an apartment, for $700 a month. (we need a "surprise" smiley)

Nice apartments often cost that much around here.


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Posted January 16, 2014 - 05:01 PM

I haven't read through all of the comments so I may repeat what has been said many times. But I would go for it.

 

Back in 89 fresh out of high school I was offered a job in NC. 500 miles from Springfield Tn. I took it. I have not regretted it once. Why? because this far from home it was root hog or die. It was up to me to support myself and stand on my own two feet.

 

Now that I am older and have put down roots it would be a little harder to move so I understand why you are reluctant. However, if someone offered me more pay to do what I was already doing I would be gone in a flash.

 

Outside of a college education, the only way to get promoted is to take the ones that are offered to you. Consider it a stepping stone to bigger and better things.

 

Kids will adjust. Roads will still run both ways to grandmas house. And more financial security (especially today) is always a plus.

 

My two cents ( from a busted guy who plays with scrap metal, trucks, and tractors) is to take the job.


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Posted January 16, 2014 - 06:42 PM

Hang in there, transition usually isn't fun and before you know it you'll be living your new life.

 

...500 miles from Springfield Tn...

 

I used to live in the whitehouse/portland area.


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