Just a Great Thanks to all have replied, even those that want to throw me under the tractor
I guess I should've have explained the sarcasm remark, my wife, teenagers, and myself interact this way, a lot of sarcasm and joking bertween us, we are hardly ever serious. Enginerod pretty much hit the nail on the head with his response of how we interact. It's hard to switch gears when that's the way you always do it. I'm not caulous enough to deal with this in that way, I know better, just hard to do.
My wife knows what is going on, but just trying to find that control. I think she panics as much for not being "normal" as she puts it, as worrying about other things. Her symptoms are pretty much what Canawler explained, she feels it coming, but can't control it. This last one, she woke up and her BP was 170/110 which made her anxiety worse which lead to another ER trip.
She starting taking the lexapro 6 or 7 yrs ago and it worked fine, but felt she didn't need it any longer cause her hormones are now regulated through a patch since she had the hysto. The ER doc told her it should be easier to do now since there is not that hormone swing and meds should work better.
Having been told by him also that it takes 4-6 weeks to actually not feel the effects of the drug anymore I think helped her too, he really helped her understand what to expect.
I just talked to her, she had taken a sleep med last night, she actually slept for about 5 hours straight, but still woke up with a small attack, then got back to sleep for a few hrs before my alarm went off. At least she got some sleep, first time in 3 days. She said this morning she is trying to "shake out the cobwebs" feeling she is having. She up the mg of her meds plus took the sleep med so she feels that is cause. As I said, knowing the reactions to these meds will be better medicine than the medicine I think.
She has contacted a couple threapist, but all have like a 3 week minimum before they can get her in.
Twostep, I agree, that's how I work out my frustrations, worries, etc...head outside to get something accomplished. I keep mentioning the "housework" word to her, but just not gettting through . Seriously, no I didn't, but it might work .
It's also hard for someone who is mostly sedentary, her most exercise is walking from the car into work and back. She reads a lot and plays on the computer.
She did say she wanted me to make sure treadmill was working and she may try some stuff we have on the Wii to become a little more active, I usggested the yoga videos she bought a while back but hasn't watched. Plus she knows she needs to lose a bunch of weight, could be a positive in both aspects. She was doing good early summer when she was going to gym 3 days a week, it really helped her, she has mentioned going back soon.
Thanks for all comments, criticisms, and just providing a place to vent.