Well it seems that things sort of worked out for the best last night. After I blew up, I made it a point to keep busy and out of the house. I spent most of the afternoon getting the tractors, carts and hay wagon ready for the parade this morning. I made 3 trips to the car wash to clean up the tractors. When I got back everyone was gone except for the MIL and when I walked IN the door, she walked OUT. Was kind of comical at the time. I asked Kimme if she had "run everyone off" and she said that the MIL had been having a coughing spell and she didnt have it until she started staying at our house......so she was going back to the Son's house and would be staying over there at night and coming to our house in the mornings to sit with Kimme until I get home. Well, it worked out for the best because Kimme and I got to sit down and talk for a while last night. I expressed my concerns about the "lack of communication" and explained to her again WHY I blew up the way that I did and she said that it would have scared her as well if she had shown up at the pharmacy and got blindsided. We also discussed the equipment issue and she said that she is fine with it NOW but she was a little upset about it at the time. We also talked about the kids coming home. And we even talked about her mother "moving in" and that was pretty much squelched as well. SO............all seems to be getting back to normal and I didnt have to show my hiney!
On a good note (sort of) Kimme is going wedding dress shopping with her daughter Monday. Her daughter was supposed to be getting married in Sept but the night that we talked to the older kids, Kimme's mother told Ashleigh that "You need to think about moving your wedding up because you dont know how long your mother will be around".............TALK ABOUT LOUSY TIMING! Needless to say I was FURIOUS that she even brought the subject up! I understand where she was coming from and would have been fine with it had she waited until a later date to ask her or suggest moving the wedding date up. (Kimme and I discussed that last night as well) You dont sit down and tell your daughter that you have 4-6 months to live and then suggest that she move her wedding date just to accommodate you in the same conversation. In the beginning it was suggested to have a small intimate ceremony for the immediate family so that her mother could be there and then keep the same "Wedding Date" to perform the ceremony for everyone else. Well I was told last night that they have moved the ENTIRE wedding up to Jan. I am just glad that Kimme will be around to see her daughter get married since her son and his wife decided to get married at the courthouse and FORBID anyone to come. (that is a LONG story in itself)
Another good note.........All of our friends and even people that we dont even really know have been BEGGING to help us in some way! Well, it just so happened that a bunch of the men from our Sunday school class were over at Carrie's (my AWESOME sister in law) house the other night and we asking her "WHAT can we do, we NEED to do something for her and her family" so Carrie suggested that they could build a wheel chair ramp from the front porch to the driveway and they are supposed to be coming over sometime in the next week or so to build it.
The company that Kimme was working for (she hasnt worked since early October) has been after her to let them help as well. Well Kimme is drawing her short term disability through them and they are paying the difference in what she draws on disability and what she was making on a 40 hour paycheck. These people LOVE MY WIFE DEARLY! Even though they are supplementing her disability check, they still feel the need to help out more. One of the women that she worked with and is really close to finally talked Kimme into letting them hire someone come and keep the house clean........once a week, twice a week, however many times Kimme wants it cleaned. Kimme also has a life insurance policy with the company and was afraid that as soon as her short term disability ran out that she would lose it because she was no longer employed with them. (we told them that she wouldnt be back to work a month or so ago, so that they could go ahead and hire someone to replace her) Well, I went by and talked to her boss yesterday and asked if it would be possible to keep the policy and us keep paying the premiums and he said "Absolutely, when it comes down to it, either THEY would pay the premiums or we could pay them" Knowing Fred, he will just keep paying them and never even mention it to me again. He also told me that they were working on something BIG for us but didnt elaborate. They have been SO GOOD to us!
And one last thing...............Last night while I was washing tractors, for some reason the thought of painting my 430 PINK popped in my head. I have been joking with Kimme for years now about doing her a pink tractor. Well I called my Sister in law and asked her to contact a good family friend and see if he would be interested in painting the tractor for me. I am hoping that I can get him to donate the paint and labor. I talked to a guy at a local upholstery shop about dying the seat PINK as well. I am hoping to have this done in the next month so that I can make sure that Kimme will be able to at least see it and hopefully be able to drive it at least once. It will be TOTALLY customized as a tribute to her and it WILL make appearances at the upcoming plow days and I can tell you that it will be VERY EMOTIONAL each and every time that I use that tractor. Keep tuned for updates. Once I get the project rolling, I will start a new thread!
Thanks for all of you guys and gals supporting and putting up with me........