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#31 nra1ifer OFFLINE  

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Posted July 07, 2013 - 09:40 PM

Go ahead & neuter yourself.  At least she won't be doing it to ya!  :rolling:

 

Seriously though, keep her as your very best friend and you'll do just fine.  YES, that means best friend before your hunting buddies, and GTtalk buddies as well.  If she's your best friend & knows it, she'll let you have the rest of us as "secondary" friends!  :thumbs:

 

I agree with Dan.

 

And it never hurts to learn the phrase, " Yes, Dear!"

 

Seriously...... I am married to an angel!    I hope you are so lucky!


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Posted July 07, 2013 - 10:31 PM

Congrat Greg. Hoping you both have a prosporus and happy marriage.


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Posted July 08, 2013 - 10:34 AM

thanks everyone. troy thats some great advice


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Posted July 09, 2013 - 01:11 AM


It's 45 years for us in Sept. What everyone has said is true, plus there are at least three sides to most situations, your side, her side, and what is really going on--- communicate! Here's our best for a happy life together.
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Posted July 09, 2013 - 08:55 AM

Well, I can give ya some of advice my father, him and mom made it 62 yrs....somehow LOL.

First.....RUN!!!!! hahaha

Second- the honeymoon is over when you get married :D

Third- wedding cake is birth control :wallbanging:

Fourth- for birth control, use the window method. When it gets stiff, go slam it in the window,...this coming from a man with 5 kids :rolling:

 

Seriously though, Elfman pretty much hit everything on the head. Women think in a circle with many subjects going at once, men think in a line, one subject at a time. It can be VERY frustrating until you figure it out. I'm almost 19 yrs in and still lost most of the time  :thumbs:

Just give her full attention and it does help to sometimes repeat what she said so you are on the same page. And don't try to always fix everything, sometimes they just need to talk, vent, etc.

One of biggest keys to remember I think, is your are one once you get married, each other should be first. This gets very rough when kids come along, they become priority, but always remember to give each other time and do not let your marriage relationship take a back seat to raising the kids. Get a baby sitter, go on dates, etc. My wife and I seem to be closer now since our two are old enough to stay home and take care of themselves, we are able to go do as we please wihout dragging them, makes a big difference....but that's down the road advice.

 

Express your opinions,thoughts, wants, etc, but do it not in anger, take a breather if needed and come back later.

communicate, communicate, communicate.


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Posted July 09, 2013 - 09:16 AM

Also, as to communication, try to learn quickly when circumstances mean the best form of communication is to just keep your mouth shut!  By now, you are likely already learning that.   :smilewink:


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Posted July 09, 2013 - 09:30 AM

im good at keeping my mouth shut now lol were camping all next week for a honeymoon going fishing and relaxing for a week.all the advice helps guys


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Posted July 09, 2013 - 10:06 AM

It took me YEARS to figure out that most of the time she was talking, she was just thinking out loud and I didn't need to answer.

 

The time is getting closer!!!getting closer!!!

 


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Posted July 09, 2013 - 11:25 AM

It took me YEARS to figure out that most of the time she was talking, she was just thinking out loud and I didn't need to answer.

 

 

 

BINGO!!!!

 

I remembered something else I heard on the radio which I think is very good advice. The PhD/marriage counselor was saying when we get married, the first 7-10 yrs we actually live in a very selfish way meaning most people try to change their partner into their ways or what they want that person to be. Some figure it out, others end up crashing and burning. I will admit I've had that issue over the years, now trying to let her be her. I even do it with the kids, but gotta let them be themselves...just with good instruction.

 

Oh.....and never, never call her "fat"..... just sayin' :smilewink:


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Posted July 09, 2013 - 12:01 PM

Marriage is a wonderful thing, I've done it twice :bigrofl:  :bigrofl:  :beer:

 

P.S. Best advice , Learn what communication really is, and treat her like she's your best friend, that will go a long way. 


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Posted July 09, 2013 - 12:33 PM

ya she talks out loud to her self all the time i just have to wait because at some point shell want an answer from me. i talk out loud to myself but sometimes answer myself lol



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Posted July 09, 2013 - 01:13 PM

Marriage is a wonderful thing, I've done it twice :bigrofl:  :bigrofl:  :beer:

 

P.S. Best advice , Learn what communication really is, and treat her like she's your best friend, that will go a long way. 

So do your Ex-wives still talk to each-other?!?! :D



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Posted July 09, 2013 - 01:13 PM

ya she talks out loud to her self all the time i just have to wait because at some point shell want an answer from me. i talk out loud to myself but sometimes answer myself lol

Just buy her a new tractor for your anniversary!! :rocker2:



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Posted July 09, 2013 - 01:29 PM

BW.. I had the best thing happen before i got hitched... My ole man said to my wife (girlfriend at the time) Keep in mind that he is 30 years old and set in his ways. He will always walk in the house with his shoes on, he will always own guns, dogs and tools.. If you think you will change any of that walk away now).. I am rather glad that my wife has never tried to change me. I am still the grumpy ole hunter... Just be a good man.. Things will work.. Your a good dude BW..


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Posted July 09, 2013 - 01:41 PM

After all the good advice you've got you may not need this, but......... here's the formula for figuring women out.

 

 

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