Posted December 12, 2012 - 09:01 AM
Posted December 12, 2012 - 09:53 AM
So many times people will be fine during the visitation and funeral only to break down in the coming days, weeks, months. Periodic visits will do wonders for him. It's much like natural disasters when you think about it. How many people and organizations rush aid to those who have been affected only to find that a year later the need is still there but the help isn't.
Very true DB.. For me the first days with all of the people milling about it seemed like I was in a NYC subway tunnel with folks passing by while I was just in shock.. The grief is just something he will have to let run it's course and it will just always be there right under the surface.. In time it will fade but will still be there nonetheless.. My wife and I know that well.. Just be there for him and offer to help or spend time with him whenever you can.. Try not to be pushy or discuss his feelings all of the time or he will just push you away or get angry/avoid you altogether.. He needs room to be strong & grieve but also will need help & someone to talk to from time to time.. Just be there and help him adjust to his new life.. He will need that the most.. It is a heck of a thing to lose someone so close so give it time.. Hope this makes some sense to ya..