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Posted December 11, 2012 - 10:24 AM

Here's a little poem to give us all perspective on a death of loved ones I found a while back and kept as a reminder that passing on is God's way and not necessarily a bad thing:

Moving on:


Death is nothing at all. It does not count.
I have only slipped away into the next room.
Everything remains as it was.
The old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged.
Whatever we were to each other, that we are still.
Call me by the old familiar name.
Speak of me in the easy way which you always used.
Put no sorrow in your tone.
Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together.
Play, smile, think of me, pray for me.
Let my name be ever the household word that it always was.
Let it be spoken without effort
Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was.
There is unbroken continuity.
Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight?
I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just around the corner.
All is well. Nothing is hurt; nothing is lost.
One brief moment and all will be as it was before.
How we shall laugh at the trouble of parting, when we meet again.

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Posted December 11, 2012 - 11:03 AM

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss, Daniel.
It should serve as a reminder that there is no such thing as a completely safe surgery.
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Posted December 11, 2012 - 11:49 AM

Sorry to hear of your families loss Daniel. Your in our Thoughts.
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Posted December 11, 2012 - 12:08 PM

Vet ran late topday, but vet check finally over & I gotta get ready for Sheila's funeral. Sure hope Sherrill can handle it well, but if he does or doesn't, there will be plenty of family there to support him either way.
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Posted December 11, 2012 - 12:36 PM

My thoughts will be with you this afternoon my friend. I'll pray that you both have the strength to endure through this difficult time.
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Posted December 11, 2012 - 12:41 PM

Daniel, missed this until now. Please know I am sending support for your whole family. Losing a family member is one of the hardest things we all have to endure.
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Posted December 11, 2012 - 03:41 PM

Back home now. Sherrill is handling things very well, so I came on home after the funeral to do the feeding & other chores. I'll be visiting him soon. So glad he's doing better than I was worried he would. Please keep my cousin in your thoughts & prayers, as I'm sure he's gonna have some tough times ahead. Thanks so much guys!
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Posted December 11, 2012 - 04:53 PM

Thanks for the update. We'll keep your cousin in our prayers.
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Posted December 11, 2012 - 04:53 PM

Sorry to learn of your family's loss Daniel. Definitely tragic that the surgery turned out to be unnecessary. We'll keep you all in our thoughts and prayers.
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Posted December 11, 2012 - 05:27 PM

Daniel, I'll be thinking of him. I know what he's going thru!
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Posted December 11, 2012 - 05:54 PM

One of my other cousin's gave me his Dad's old Ford 125 a while back, which Uncle Asa bought new back around 70 or so. It's in real bad shape, 100% rust. It's at Sherrill's house as he never got round to getting it running again for him, so he gave it to me in hopes of seeing it restored some day. So in the next week or 2, I'll hook up my trailer to fetch it. That will give me another good reason to visit Sherrill to see how he's doing and give us something to talk about too. Not that either of us have trouble talking! :rolling: All will be AOK with time.
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Posted December 11, 2012 - 09:03 PM

Dan sorry to hear this.

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Posted December 12, 2012 - 05:28 AM

So many times people will be fine during the visitation and funeral only to break down in the coming days, weeks, months. Periodic visits will do wonders for him. It's much like natural disasters when you think about it. How many people and organizations rush aid to those who have been affected only to find that a year later the need is still there but the help isn't.

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Posted December 12, 2012 - 08:08 AM

:iagree: :yeah_that:
Sherrill probably has coped well during this time. Family and friends are there for support. In the weeks and months to come, though, he will be having a hard time. If you can, try to set up a regular time for something with him, maybe a regular meal with your family, perhaps a meal out with the two of you. Perhaps better yet, leave that Ford there, and you go there regularly to help him restore it.

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Posted December 12, 2012 - 08:18 AM

Mom passed almost 10 years ago now, just months short of their 60th anniversary. We were really worried about how dad was going to be since everything he did was all about mom. My siblings and I (there are 4 of us) set up a supper schedule so dad was actually eating supper with one of us almost every night. Dad and I go to breakfast every Sunday morning which is something we started when mom was very sick. As long as she was feeling ok, I could get him to slip away for breakfast to give him a break and get him out a little. We've stuck to this for 10 years now, rarely missing a Sunday. I restored my first tractor up in his shop that first winter mom was gone. He enjoyed watching the progress and seeing what I was up to next. The point is, keeping him busy will help him to heal and adjust. He had his time to grieve and he actually had to tell us to leave him alone a few times. I still take him places as I can. I just figure, he's 88, I want every moment I can get with him. So my advice would be, keep Sherrill busy and give him purpose and I think he'll do fine.




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