Does Anybody Else Have This Problem?
Posted May 27, 2012 - 10:11 AM
I like to do things in a certain order and leave room for my tractors to work though. Call me crazy, but you should do the levelling and put topsoil down before planting trees and so on. Once the trees are planted, you should be able to mow between them. Also, if a tree is in the way, you either move it or get rid of it. You consider where fences, flower beds, trees, etc. go. The idea is to have a yard that's functional and easy to look after as well not being too ugly.
Mrs. Rev is not that way though. She likes to put trees two feet from the fence, no matter how many times I tell her how big the deck on the LA105 is. She likes to have 18 inches between trees and flower beds even though even the push mower won't fit there. She likes to create a maze of trees and shrubs that have to be mowed between instead of a single wall of trees.
Most distressing though, is that she really, really likes to do things all willy-nilly. If she's walking through a store and sees a shrub she likes, she decides where it would look and buys is. That part of the yard might have a pile of used lumber and need levelling and topsoil, the shrubs might be in the way when I go to do those things, but she wants that shrub in right away. Then I have to try to work around them.
Yesterday we had a discussion about a weed-tree...a little Manitoba maple that seeded itself...that went like this.
Mrs Rev: What are you doing?
Me: Moving this tree.
Mrs. Rev: Why?
Me: Because it planted itself right where I want to build the tractor port.
Mrs. Rev: Where are you going to put it?
Me: In the field back there.
Mrs. Rev: It would look good in that corner by the house.
Me: No, the roots get as big as the canopy and we just fixed the foundation.
Mrs. Rev: How about over there?
Me: That's the neighbour's property.
Mrs. Rev: Here then.
Me: It'll be in my way when I'm levelling there.
Mrs. Rev: Here?
Me: That's where we park the trailers.
Mrs. Rev: I think we'll put it here then.
Me: I told you it would be in my way there.
Mrs. Rev (giving me that wife look): But we need a tree here.
Okay, I've seen the wife look before and know when to lose the argument, so I dug the hole kind of shallow and piled dirt up around it to approximate what the final level will be. That fresh topsoil I piled up is also going to be a weed magnet until I get the grass in. It will likely die because it is planted shallow and there's also a chance I'll hook it with the tractor when I do finally get around to levelling there. If it does survive, it will be difficult to mow around and the leaves will fall in a corner where they have to raked out by hand. There should be a non-deciduous shrub there, and it shouldn't get planted until just before I seed grass in that area.
I go through something like this almost every weekend of the summer. I have actual experience with landscaping. I know what works, what can be made to work, and what doesn't work. I have a basic design in mind for the yard that will make it relatively easy to maintain. This is my thing.
So how many others have this ongoing problem?
- MH81, Toolpartzman and LilysDad have said thanks
Posted May 27, 2012 - 10:31 AM
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Posted May 27, 2012 - 10:55 AM
One day a friend came by to find a ladder leaning against my living room wall. I explained it this way. Yep, it needs to go to the garage, but after installing a ceiling fan, I could hear faint echos of my long-gone ex-wife's voice saying-"Whats that doing here, get that ladder out of the living room"
So I left it there-just because I could. And after a couple weeks of enjoying it, I took it to the garage. We've all had a laugh over it. And when the subject of being single or married comes up my
reply is " Its hard to stay married when you're always right !
Edited by Toolpartzman, May 27, 2012 - 11:23 AM.
Posted May 27, 2012 - 11:17 AM
Posted May 27, 2012 - 12:04 PM
There's also the grass seed thing. I like to get mine from a local supplier. They have mixes that do well in our soil and climate. You just tell them what your conditions are where you are planting, and they'll match it. Buying from them supports local business and gets better results. Yeah, it costs about 10% more. So what? Grass seed is cheap so that 10% amounts to a few pennies.
I generally get a ten pound bag of general purpose every spring, then buy one pound bags if I have to plant in shade or extremely wet or dry spots. It takes care of little repairs (we have a female dog, so always dead spots) and major plantings, as well as some of those little jobs you get from friends and neighbours. Sometimes I plant grass just to keep mud and weeds down in areas I haven't gotten to yet.
This year I gave my wife the address, told her to talk to Gerry and just say who she was. I sent her because I was busy and she was driving right by the place. Instead she picked up a bag of something or other at Canadian Tire. It doesn't say what the mix is, or what conditions it prefers. I'd been using it, but it seems to have as much sawdust as seed in it and the results were sparse. It also seems to really love water, which is a bad idea around here. So I went and got my usual ten pounds of grass. Guess how the discussion when my wife saw that.
Posted May 27, 2012 - 12:32 PM
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- Reverend Blair said thank you
Posted June 19, 2012 - 07:11 AM
Posted June 19, 2012 - 07:42 AM
Hosta, ivys, pink spirea, red maple, etc. Different bloom times for the flowers... Did my homework.
All the while, she had suggestions and seemed excited.
Now it's a weed garden (that's what I call it too) and I'm contemplating ripping it all out. Easier to mow there than mow around and weed whack the tall stuff.
Sigh. Rev, I feel your pain...
Posted July 13, 2012 - 08:51 AM
I have come to the realization that I have to plant things her way and just put up with the extra work it brings me.
Yep, I've learned that when Linda's happy, the whole world is happy.
- Texas Deere and Horse said thank you
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